윤씨부인의 여사적(女師的) 삶과 그 의미
A study of Mrs Yun's Teaching Life and It's Meaning
초록
본고는 조선 중기 사대부 여성 윤씨부인의 일생을 서포(西浦) 김만중(金萬重)의 "선비정경부인행장(先?貞敬夫人行狀)"을 주 자료로 하여 재구하여, 아들에 의해 형상화된 사대부 여성의 여사(女師)적 이미지를 고찰하였다. 윤씨 부인의 삶은 한 마디로 여사적(女師的) 삶이라고 규정할 수 있다. 그녀는 당대 최고 명문가인 해평 윤문의 외동 딸로 태어나 할머니인 정혜옹주에게 엄격한 훈육을 받고 강한 의지력과 절제력을 지닌 사려 깊은 여성으로 성장하였다. 이후 조선 최고의 예학 집안인 광산 김문으로 출가하지만 병자호란이라는 미증유의 국난에 남편 김익겸이 순절하여, 윤씨부인은 남편, 아버지의 자리를 대신하여 가문의 여사가 되었다. 집안의 정신적 지도자, 여사로 윤씨부인은 손녀 딸 인경왕후를 덕망을 갖춘 왕가의 여인으로 훈육하였다. 그녀는 손자, 조카들의 교육에도 열과 성을 다하였는데, 그 결과 두 아들과 손자가 대제학에 오르는 가문의 번성을 이루게 된다. 만년에 연이은 정변으로 가문에 위기가 닥쳤을 때도 윤씨부인은 집안의 여사로서 중심을 잡고 법도를 준수하여 가문의 앞날을 기약하였다. 손자와 종손들에게 학업에 힘쓸 것을 당부하였고, 며느리, 손부들에게는 근검한 집안의 법도를 지킬 것을 유언으로 남겼다. 보통 사람으로는 감당하기 어려웠던 고난과 좌절을 강인한 의지로 극복해 낸 윤씨부인의 삶은 가부장 제도에 순종한 여성의 수동적 선택으로 평가하는 것은 온당하지 않다. 그녀는 아름다운 자질을 지니고 태어난 현명한 여성으로 자신에게 주어진 운명의 길을 능동적으로 걸어간 것이다. 윤씨부인은 고난과 궁핍을 두려워하지 않고 극복하며 다른 사람의 본보기가 되는 삶에 진정한 가치를 둔 진정한 스승, 여사(女師)였던 것이다.
This thesis reorganized the life of Mrs. Yun who was a noble woman in the middle of the Joseon period with main material of Seopo, Kim, Man Joong(1637-1692)'s "Seonbijungkyungbuinhaengjang(先?貞敬夫人行狀)" and considered yeosa(女師)'s image of noble woman embodied by her son. Although women who were remarkable in premodern period nurtured their son well and they became excellent, it's easy that the life of their mother can be hidden by sons' shadow. Luckily, materials of Mrs. Yun were kept by her descendants, so people could analogize how she could endure difficulties and how she educate her children. In a word, the life of Mrs. Yun can be yeosa(女師)'s life. She was born as a only daughter of the best ancestry in the period and grown to be a considerable woman with strong will and discipline under the strict training of her grandmother, Junghye Ongju. And then, she married Gwangsan Kimmun, the best literature house of Joseon period, but her husband, Kim, Ik Kyum was died by unexampled difficulty, Byungjahoran. During the tribulation, Mrs. Yun was in charge of not only parents supporting but also two sons' education excellently. She educated not only her children but also grandchildren and nephews around her, so she had extraordinary passion and sincerity for the education. As the result, she enjoyed a glory that two sons and grandchildren became on daejehak. Mrs. Yun was living with thrift and saving continuously regardless of her circumstances. When her granddaughter became inkyungwanghoo who is a wife of sookjong, she didn't kick her common habit and trained strictly the mind of family members who could be easily in disorder. In spite of the richness, he obeyed manners and showed thrift and saving continuously and thoroughly. When there was a crisis in her family, the first son, Kim, Man Ki was died and the second son, Kim, Man Joong and grandson went into exile during the continuous political upheaval. But, she supported her house, obeyed the rules and promised the future. At that time, she continuously encouraged grandchildren and the eldest grandsons of the head family to study without any stop for themselves in spite of the difficulties. Mrs. Yun pursued truly valuable life. She considered that the life which didn't get praised by other people wasn't valid although he or she lived a pleasant life in luck and richness. Mrs. Yun was a true teacher yeosa (女師) who placed a true value on the life enduring hardship and poorness without fear and becoming an example of other people.
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